Don’t mistake talking about problems for solving them. The world is full of problems: health issues, financial difficulties, relationship challenges, demanding education, high job expectations—not to forget the weather. And they pile up constantly. Isn’t there always several things that don’t go right? Well, yes, you are absolutely right. That is your current focus, the current way you look at your world. It is the mindset you learned and practiced over many years and decades

You have a business problem and cannot solve it over a longer period of time?   Let me tell you a secret:   Most of the time, it is not about the problem itself.  You think it is about the problem, but it is not.    Most problems don’t get solved or very slowly solved because it is a relationship problem.    There is some form of mistrust or underlying conflict or opposing interests. And that leads to destructive behavior, instead of getting to a solution quickly.    Most peo

Everything in life has a cost.   Everything.   Once you realize that, you will be able to make smarter choices. You will be able to make choices which better suit your personal needs.   Cost is not limited to money. It can also be about your time or your energy.   Money is actually the cheapest cost, because money can be replaced. Your time and energy are limited.   Watch out for hidden price tags.    A pretty luxury car might cost you $200k. That’s an obvious price tag and y

Communication hack of the day: Instead of telling someone “Don’t forget to XYZ!”, try this instead: “I know that you’re already focused on XYZ … I just wanted to let you know that it is such an important part of that presentation/meeting/negotiation.” What might seem like just a different wording can be a game changer. Why? You don’t sound like a parent reminding their child. Instead you communicate on eye level and reduce the sense of hierarchy. You communicate with trust an

“I trust that you do your best.” This is a mindset and it includes an important message: YOUR best. Not my best. Or someone else’s best, that is their expectation. It includes another - equally important - baseline to start with: I trust myself. I know that I will do my best. And from this understanding, I realize that your best might be very different from mine. I will be there to support you and try to create an environment where you are capable of growing into your best ve

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